Do you fear The Fear?

Fear, everyone has fears - well, at least one kind of fear. It can be fear of darkness, fear of heights, fear of spiders..these are the common ones. Well have you heard of this kind of fear: fear of one's self?

What is fear? Fear is basically being afraid of something, perhaps due to past traumatising experiences or some 'interference' during the growing up process. Even the strongest, biggest man/giant has fear - just like the big elephant fearing the tiny ants. However, it is very normal when you have fears.

I used to hear people asking, "Do you fear anything? What is your greatest fear?" Then I thought to myself; I fear this, I fear that..but what IS my greatest fear?

The greatest fear I ever encounter was The Fear of myself. Silly isn't in? Why and How would someone fear his/her own self? (laughs)


Give this a thought:
You know what kind of person you are, and yet you did something that opposes your personality. You went across the line, and entered a new world where there is a 'new' you; a totally opposite you. When this happens, your mind will be confused which one you are, since now you have more than one.

Take for example, a situation where an old, supposingly blind man wanting to cross the road. When you saw him, you quickly ran towards him to offer help to guide him across. Then as you ran, a new thought came to you and said "No, there are others who are standing next to him who will most probably hold his hand across. Or, or..he might be a robber or a pickpocket, pretending to be blind!" And you stopped at your steps. Then another thought came and said, "Go ahead and help. See how hard it is for him to walk without sight?" And you just don't know which one to listen to, who to be.

In the end, these mixed characters will make you end up being afraid of youself - because you don't know who you really are and how to react in different situations. Have you experienced this before?

So how can you overcome such fear?
First you need to be in control of yourself by keeping focus on the right personality you used to be. Get professional help from psychologists if need be. And most importantly, you need to know why you get the 'additional' personality in the first place. Is it because of peer pressure, stress, or social influence? Reflect back on past happenings and try to find the root cause. Once you know yourself again, there will be no more fear.

Above all, for whatever fear you have, be brave. Face it. Do everything you can and should to overcome it. You are not alone. Like I said before, if others with the same fears are now immune to them, why can't you be immune too?

But not to forget, motivation and gentle acceptance for the fear is also essential. However, if you can live with your fear and not be too bothered by it, then by all means go on with it. As long as it doesn't harm you mentally, it is fine. =)



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