Being a Yes person burdens one down if time is not managed properly. As in the Communication's Drama Triangle; being the rescuer but end up as the victim. Victim of unable to complete own responsibilities and taking unto one's shoulders the problems and responsibilities of another. Not only do you not get enough rest, there is no time for yourself, your family, your other friends, free time even; to victims, true enough?
Sad as it is, it's true.
So, how to say No?
Prioritise. Know what is more important: the friendship or the "taking of advantage" by the friend? I've learnt my lesson and it takes time to say No, since the great empathy is there to keep the Yes going.
Try it once, and you'll enjoy saying No at your busiest times.
Mental not: To be logical and practise wisdom at all times.
9 comments:
Very agreed :]
Strength in saying no does not make one less of a friend. However, the strength makes us stronger for future endeavors.
dear rena: thank you for reading and commenting.
dear laughsquietly: thank you for the affirmation, :)
I find that "Saying No" to a friend can be quite difficult, Although sometimes you need to. If I had a friend desperatly in need of help I would say yes, depending on what that friend would need help with. I dont mind refusing company, saying no to a friend that way.
Would you "Say No" to a friend in need?
what if you had a friend in desperate need of help, even if you are busy balancing out family, work, kids, budget, morgage, etc.. would you still help them out the best you can?
use second one :)
dear sick boy: as i put the mental note, one is to practise wisdom in saying yes or no. For your case, it depends on the situation of which you are deciding on a yes or a no. If by saying no to your friend in need of help, and the consequence is bad, then it is wiser to rethink about saying yes, but with a drawn line of where the help is to be limited.
For example, if your friend is needing help to rob a bank for money, then by all means 'say no' to his action of robbing the bank, and getting you to help him. and 'say yes' because you ARE a true friend - to share an alternative besides robbing a bank for money, to source out money from elsewhere or work to earn them. those are what I meant by saying no, and saying yes with wisdom. :)
agree agree agree. i'm a very yes person, and it gets me nowhere and everywhere all at once.
Great post and advice! I totally agree & love your blog, attitude and outlook on life! :-)
You are very inspiring!
Glad I found you so I can follow and come back often!
Have a great week! ~ Coreen
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